how to be more active in bed as a woman

After a short romance,give him a penis massage.That would make him open up and connect sexually,create a space like making the environment seductive,this is something you do once in a while most especially when you guys have been a relationship for long(spicing things up),good music and a good massage essential oil so when he sniff the sweet smell, it would activate and connect to his sexuallity.For instance you can use eucalyptus or lemon essential oils. Give a deep growing massage from his tights with the essential oil using your palms and fingers,ask him if he likes the pressure you are using so as to adjust your technique.Start stroking him in a delicious way,i mean start the massage on the penis joyously and steady at different styles and positions.Tease his orgasm,at this point he would be so far gone.,give him a blow job if neccessary.Do not just push him on the bed,see him there wanting you to ride.Then give him a good sex while on top.