Most people only ever attempt to set goals at New Year’s. Usually this is a half hearted attempt to change their life for the better in the coming year and is often associated with alcohol. Some people actually follow through on these goals and join a gym in the New Year or go on a new luxury asset.
But very few people actually stick to their resolutions. Why is this? Well they don’t have any emotion behind their goals. They saw themselves in the mirror on New Year’s Eve and thought to themselves “I need to lose some weight”. They were not specific about how much weight they wanted to lose or why they wanted to obtain a new car.
Goals without Emotion are generally useless
If you have some goals written down then congratulations – you are truly in the top 1-3% of the population here because the vast majority of people never set any goals for themselves. They seem to be happy to drift along in life and let life control them.
The thing is that you need to do more than just write a list of goals. A lot of people who have set goals in the past and have not achieved them will tell you that goal setting doesn’t work. But if you ask them how much they really pursued their goals they will probably tell you that they didn’t do that much.
They joined a gym and started to work out regularly for a few weeks. Then they gave up. Or they went on a diet and lost a few pounds but soon went back to their old bad eating habits. So what is the problem here?
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Goals that challenge you (the best kind) require effort and persistence. In order to keep going with your goals you need the motivation to push you when you don’t feel like it. This motivation comes from your emotions.
How to use Emotions to achieve your Goals
When you are writing your goals you need an emotional reason for trying to achieve them. A goal to lose 20 pounds in 3 months is not going to work unless you are truly committed. So think about the real reason “why” you want to lose this weight. Be honest with yourself here.
Most people do not want to lose weight so that they can fit into their old clothes. They want to lose weight because they want to be more attractive. So add a statement to this affect to your goal.
“I want to lose this weight because I want to get the attention of [name] at my office as I believe he/she is the one for me”. Or “I want to lose the weight because I want to turn heads and get attention from the opposite sex wherever I go”.
You need to come up with your own statements but hopefully you get the idea here. Any emotional statement that you write alongside your goal is there to inspire you. It is there to provide the motivation to keep going when you don’t want to. It is something that you will read every day and it will make you feel great. This really works well. So take a look at all of your goals right now and figure out the real reason that you want to achieve them. This will always be an emotional reason. Why do you really want to earn more money – what will that extra money mean to you? How will it make you feel?